This is the facilitator’s guide for the “Life! for Singles” course. The workbook looks at the issues of identity, character, friendships, relationships, sexuality, career and calling from a Christian perspective. Specifically developed for young singles, college students and young professionals to help them look at who they are, where they are going and who they are taking with them. The material encourages them to take time to evaluate their friendships and relationships and understand how these relationships influence their lives.
The 9 flexible units can be completed over 9 weeks but most likely will provide food for thought and discussion for up to a year. Our advice is that the facilitator does not rush the course. If a particular part of any unit is generating a lot of healthy discussion then stay with that topic for as long as it is helpful to the participants. The units are:
Who am I?: Understand that God made them and that He created them to be unique. Before they can search for the right one they need to become confident in who they are. Made up of three parts, body, soul and spirit; each part is important. Identify their strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats and learn how to maximize the positive and minimize the negative.
Why am I?: They will understand that God not only exists but has a plan for them. You have been given a unique design with that plan in mind. Marriage might be part of God’s plan but it won’t be the end purpose so it is important that you discover your calling.
Be the right friend: Participants are encouraged to consider their reputation as a friend and recognise their need to build strong long lasting friendships. They will recognise and remove destructive friendship patterns. They are encouraged to remove the masks they hide behind.
Choose the right friends: Participants are helped to realise that they can choose their friends and not just fall into friendships accidentally. They will evaluate their current friendships and how healthy they are. They are encouraged to nurture their friendships, recognize their need for friendship with God and understand that a good marriage is built on a good friendship.
Be the right one: Participants are encouraged to change their focus from finding or choosing the “right one” to becoming the “right one” and endeavour to make true and lasting changes from the inside out.
Choose the right one: The participants will recognise that choosing the right marriage partner is one of the most important decisions they will ever have to make because they enter into a marriage covenant. This unit removes the myths associated with love and establishes truths which will help them to choose the right one.
The dating game: The participants are taught that their cultural expectations may not be the same as God’s plan. They are helped to understand the impact that recreational dating can have on someone’s life. They will learn how to pace and avoid racing into romantic relationships to avoid making poor relational decisions.
The reality of sexuality: Participants establish firm spiritual, emotional and physical boundaries to put God on the throne in the area of their sexuality. They learn about honour and character and identify the difference between love and lust. They are encouraged to choose to establish purposeful purity.
In the meantime: Participants learn what they should be doing now, not ‘just’ waiting but living life to the full.
The participants have exercises to complete to help them grow and develop in areas where they may be weak.